It makes me a little frustrated to see a psychiatrist responding to a question about the age of marriage, saying, “You should be able to get along well alone.” Depending on your personality, it seems that there will be more distinctions between those who are doing well alone and those who are not, but you shouldn’t suggest a single personality type as a requirement for marriage.

Do you know what is the most important factor in successful marriage?
It is how much they agree with the social notion that marriage should be done in their 20s. Of course, the largest number of people in history are getting married because of the unfounded belief that marriage should occur. I am confident that this variable will have the greatest predictive power if logistic regression analysis is performed with all the predictive variables explaining the probability of getting married in Korea in 2023.

In the case of marriage, more often than not by mature people, two immature people meet and do it because of the social norms that have already been internalized in my mind during the process of growing up. In your 30s and 40s, you are more likely to be alone than in your 20s. Emotional maturity is achieved through social life, recognized in the workplace, job security and income increase. Such an environment provides a background in which one can stand alone. Such people may be ready to marry, but it is almost impossible to make a decision. Why would someone marry when the situation is stable and comfortable.

When two immature people get married, they discover a lack they have not known before, and experience unconditional sacrifices while raising and raising children following childbirth. Maturity occurs in this process, and marriage develops.

Because I’m a psychiatrist, I think the research population was excessively pathological. The marriage problem was almost ruined, so I went to see a psychiatrist.

Never believe her story. Those who are not mature will be the most successful ones to decide, and will reap the greatest fruits since marriage.

Marriage is not a gift from my maturity. It is a beautiful red rose full of thorns that mature me before I die.

Additionally… Perhaps the reason young people move away from marriage and childbirth in Korean society is because their mothers are quite dissatisfied with their marriage and child-rearing processes. A 2016 study by the Institute for Health and Social Affairs below found that married women aged 40-49 responded very negatively to marriage and childbirth compared to those under the age of 29. The results of the study, in which women aged 40-49 who had been married for about 20 years participated in 2010-2014, illustrate a very different picture from previous ideas. The stereotype is that young people think more than older people do not have to get married or have children. But the truth is…

Perhaps it is the essence of Korea’s low birth rate problem that children do not marry and give birth because their mothers were unhappy in their marriage and raising their children.